Destin(ation): a story of sand and sea and sky

June 1-5, 2021 – Walkers on the beach

For as long as our girls can remember, our family has gathered together toward the end of June. Most of those years, we went to Avon, NC, but our 30+ year string was broken in 2020. We still gathered together, but in Austin rather than the beach and will do so again this year.

But the beach … we all miss the beach … the nexus of sand and sea and sky that is the very definition of heaven.

And so Meliss and Jake packed the kids into the car and headed for Destin, Florida, their second trip in as many years …

Pictures were sent and FaceTime calls were made …

which was the next best thing to being there ourselves.

As luck would have it, Deb Lacativa sent a gift of cloth and thread this past week … dyed by her hand and just what I needed to patch together the arc of time that our loved ones spent on the Gulf Coast …

From sundown …

to afternoon …

to midday …

to morning …

ending at dawn on Saturday, as they headed home to St Louis …

And I tried not to overthink the patches, just went with the impressions of color and light that the pictures evoked, finding cloth and thread to match the feeling, the imagining, of how it must have been.

Letting it all come together organically …

Then using a new-to-me Instagram link to trace the paths of the sun and the moon.

Deciding in the end to let the individual patches be seamlessly joined …

as the very best times are wont to be.

That’s a wrap

These are the month-long strips of Remember 2021 from January (left) through May (right).

They’re folded for now … I’m waiting until they are all done to stitch them together, first in pairs, then pairs of pairs until they’re all together.

And this time around, I don’t plan to wait four years to back them.

Onward to June!

Memorial Day 2021

May 31, 2021 – Wishing for more than a little bit of peace

Before my older-self marched for peace, my childhood-self marched in the Mineola Memorial Day parades of the 1960s. Our scout troop would assemble with all the other parade units, then we’d march up Mineola Boulevard, across Jericho Turnpike, and down Marcellus Avenue … ending at the park next to the public library where a large stone memorial bore the names of those who had died for us.

I remember wearing white gloves and stepping in time to the drums while impatiently waiting for my turn to carry the flag (and here I insert an image from another town on Long Island, but really, it could’ve been Anytown, USA) …

At the end of the parade route, we thrilled to hear the wailing fire engine sirens and the thundering gun salute. It was all so exciting, so why, I wondered, were the grownups always so somber?

Then we’d all walk home and have a cookout and that was that. Another year, another war, another plaque

60 years on and nothing had changed as of 2019, only Covid having the power to to temporarily derail the march of time.

When I was 13 and no longer a scout, I wore a black armband and surely listened to Edwin Starr singing War on the radio … the original here … and later still, when rock videos became a thing, I must have watched this cover by Springsteen.

Seeing the graphic images at the beginning of the Springsteen video, I recall how my folks rarely watched the national news back in the day, saying they didn’t want to bring images of death into their home. These days, I can’t bear to stay in the room as the all-too-real images of death continue to spew off the screen, around the world and in the very streets of America.

There’s a lot of truth to Rachel Maddow’s saying, “watch what they do, not what they say.” I’ll believe this country is on the right track when we finally have true gun control, a national holiday celebrating the end of war, and a seat in the President’s cabinet dedicated to waging peace in the world.

Until then, I’ll mourn the war dead and honor the memory of those who believed in a cause greater than self.

And always I will wonder what might have been …

imagine if we the people had deployed armies of teachers and lawyers, doctors and nurses, construction workers and engineers, rather than soldiers …

imagine if we had fully funded the machinery of peace rather than the weapons of war …

imagine if we had vowed to be true builders of nations by killing the causes of terror with kindness rather than feeding the beast with terrors of our own making …

And then, I dare to imagine it’s still not too late to try …